• Nicki Marie

Living with Anxiety - Day 1

Updated: Apr 21

Living with anxiety in the midst of a crisis. WOW! For those of you who know me, know that I have struggled with anxiety for most of my life. As a matter of fact, I was officially diagnosed in high school. Until recently, I don't think I knew of a day without it. It caused blackouts, inconsistency, lost friendships, drew friendships, weight-gain, weight-loss, suicide attempts (yes, plural), caused crisis, and a ton of other negative topics we could discuss. But as we will talk over the next week or so, I've learned to embrace the scars and areas of my life that are easy to hate. Anxiety and mental health being the first on that list. So here we go.....


A couple weeks ago my mother hands me a mask. Not just any old mask, but a mask with a yellow thing on it and says she paid like $50 for this thing. I remind her just how special she is 😂, that she lives in the boonies and will be fine, and went ahead on my merry way. About a week later, The World Health Organization officially declared the Covid-19/Coronavirus outbreak a pandemic. In the next few days, my other mom starts STOCKING UP.......... We still needed a few things so I offered to go to the store. Let's just say I assumed my family was being a bit extra and truly didn't know how scared the rest of the world was. WELP...... I knew that day.

I walked into the store found people were running around as if there wasn't going to be any food anywhere in the world ever again. Shelves were empty, no one was paying attention to what they were grabbing, and arguing over grocery carts and ONIONS! Like huh? I stood at the door and instantly the room was getting smaller and my head starting the room spin. I looked at the corner of the room and reminded myself how far I was from it, noticed how the walls met the ceiling, that the paint was chipping, and counted each ceiling tile until I was at the one directly above me. (It's a grounding technique that reminds me of the time and space I am actually in. It helps in situations like these - Google it!). Long story short, I was able to grip as much of reality as I could, think through what is normally in my household and buy accordingly. I only bought rest of the store they hadn't ravaged! 😳💰😂 I got home and broke down realizing just how much of my budget I had blown on stuff we already had. I was able to pull through this moment and instantly thought of all the people who are also struggling during this pandemic. And that brings us to this moment. So on day one of Living with Anxiety in the Midst of a Crisis I want to bring awareness and encourage all of us with a few points drawn from my own encounter at the store.


For the individual struggling with Anxiety today or always....


1. Acknowledge the crisis but do not inundate yourself with it. TURN OFF THE NEWS! Unplug A friend of mine introduced me to The Skimm. They give you the information you NEED to know and leave out the fluff.... Check it out.


2. Stay grounded. Remind yourself that you are going to be okay. There will definitely be moments that you are not.... and that is okay! When you realize you're feeling anxious, remind yourself of your present reality in the simplest form. Are you sitting or standing? Are you at home or not? What room are you in? Count something in the room. Feel your feet on the ground. Put up sticky notes around your entire home with positive confessions, scriptures, quotes, and even people's phone names/numbers that you can call when you need a quick reminder.


3. Show yourself some compassion, extend grace, love on you and just BE NICE! To YOU!

"Having compassion for oneself is really no different than having compassion for others." Dr. Kristen Neff

Do something that makes you happy. Take a long bath, go for a short walk, and create. Sometimes adulting can distract us from what brings us joy..... What did you like to do as a child? Sing? Color? Play a board game? Listen or play music? Watch Lion King? Call your favorite aunt, bff, or sibling. Face-time if you have to (sorry I'm an apple girl 😊). I have found that the best antidote for anxiety is JOY! So seek JOY!


For those of you who know others that have anxiety....


1. Only share what is important to their safety. Turn off the news or listen to it on your phone.


2. Check on people! If you haven't heard from them. Call them. Text them. Comment on a status. Don't allow their lack of response to push you away. If you think about them......... Reach..... I mean definitely don't stalk people but remain steady, especially during a time of crisis! Offer your support. Sometimes just knowing someone is available to answer the phone if I need them meant so very much!


3. Remember that we are more than anxiety! Remind yourself and them of the things they do well. Do something fun. Ask about things you know they love. Don't know what they like? ASK..... LOL. Do something fun. For example: A few of my aunts, my mom, and I had a virtual movie night. We all ordered pizza and watched the new Self-Made mini-series on Netflix but in our own homes. We stopped in-between the episodes to talk about it. It was corny and cute. Makes you feel like you aren't alone.


For everyone...


Breathe..............................................................................................................................................

..............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................It's going to be okay.

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Please share your thoughts, responses, comments, encouragement for others or even questions below - Let's talk!


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